Polyandry…Polyamory...Yes?...No?...Maybe?...Not yet?...
The world is coming to an end! Jokingly so…
Not so long ago there was a motion tabled for South African
women to have the option to marry more than one husband, polyandry is on the
cards for South Africa…blasphemy! some would suggest.
I was inclined to the idea of having more than one partner and
by my natural human instinct I then went and seeked validation, validation from
my male counter parts asking them what they thought and it’s funny how I went
straight to my male friends instead of my female friends for validation of a
choice that perhaps would give me some level of freedom to do what they have
been doing all along and some of them secretly so…But they cheat, it’s never
polyandry or polyamorous, they never ask for consent.
Anyway 7 out of the 9 thought I was crazy and it’s the most
stupid thing they’ve heard me say, mind
you when I brought up the idea they quickly brushed it off and the
conversation went straight from being about my thoughts to “If I were to take
on multiple female partners as a guy it would be because of…” huh? Really? *confused
face* Hello! We are talking about ME here and how I would be open to having
a polyandrous relationship. Nonetheless, they said they would support me even
though they are against the idea. Please note, I believe the reason I seeked
their validation is because most of them I’ve friend-zoned and I was secretly
opening up a gap for them to take advantage of, mxm these f**kers weren’t
interested.
Now, what I’ve come to observe is that a lot of males are
not open to the idea of having a polyandrous or polyamorous relationship but
would rather accept that their partners have “mistakenly” cheated on them. We are
rather open to the idea of polygamy perhaps because we live in a patriarchal
society and if the misogynists feel threatened by anything that will somehow disrupt the power dynamics and
shift the power more to the philogynist then it’s frowned upon.
Honestly how I viewed the motion of polyandry having the
possibility of being constitutionalized was more of a political view I guess. Females
being given another space to take on
responsibilities and actions that males take on. How it would play out I’m not
fully sure but I have an idea of how it would be like and therefore more than
anything the struggle of most women is to have the same opportunities and
powers as their male counterparts. I saw it as another step for us to emphasize
how we want to be seen and heard, perhaps we might not be equals but at least
let’s have the same options and more opportunities as the males do. I mean
another way of looking at it is what you do on the left, you should be able to
do the right, although not a 100% and with exceptions.
In South Africa we have a saying “ Wa thinta abafazi, wa
thinita imbokodo, translated ‘you strike a woman , you strike a rock’ hence when you strike a rock, a rock of the nation therefore when you
free a women, be it financially, educationally, psychologically you’ve enriched
a nation.
I’ve said a lot, here are some views on the idea of
polyandry in South Africa
https://www.okayafrica.com/south-africa-polyandry-laws-opinion/?rebelltitem=1#rebelltitem1
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