Life…marriage…confused much ?

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So there I was lazing on the couch on a Sunday afternoon, scrolling through my social media account and it seems to me that some of my friends seem to have this “life thing” figured out, some are championing in their different lanes and achieving their milestones and here I am thinking “Damn child, do you actually have your s*^t together?”. Am I the only one thinking that I’m heading somewhere but some-days I’m just not sure where exactly where I’m heading in my personal life.


But one thing that is really bugging me, the one aspect of my life in my current state of affairs is the dating department and perhaps marriage because somehow when people think dating, the thought of marriage also creeps in on that thought.


Guys!… Is it just me or does it seem as though concept of marriage has taken sharp turn to “unending confusion”? I for one will admit that I am not sure what it is anymore. I think when I was younger and still had my innocence, I knew what it was – with fairy tales and all then I grew up and life’s meaning to certain things just changed and became blurred and somethings just lost their meaning and marriage is one of those things.


Hmmm…so me and my partner have been together for sometime now and I have concluded that I would not like to get married in future (I haven’t discussed this with him yet). I honestly think that I would not like to get married and I just cannot picture myself being married. I think it’s…well…I think people (including myself) don’t really know what it is or perhaps people (excluding myself) like the whole idea of being married.
It’s like why get married when we might just divorce later, if we are both commitment to each other outside the concept of marriage then divorce will not be an option because there was never a wedding and nothing was signed on paper.


Guys, I just want a partner, a life long partner who I’ll be committed to and we both do not see the necessity to walk down the alter, it just feels like if we get married then we’ll end up messing up the storyline of both our lives.
Also with getting married, it’s become so complicated there’s contract and clauses involved, all sorts of unnecessary things that are attached to the whole thing. Please don’t get me wrong, for those that are flourishing being husband and wife that’s great but for me..nah. Perhaps I’m influenced by society to some extent or that I never had good examples of marriage while growing up or maybe I’ve grown to understand that the traditional way of marriage is just not I want and prefer to explore other ways of having a partner and being happy together for however long.


Dear bae, let’s just be partners for life and have kids together, enjoy life side by side. Again, I’m not against marriage. I just feel like marriage is not for me. I personally feel that it is something that has lost its core meaning overtime and I am not necessarily sure what it is or what is constitutes anymore. I just know I want someone by my side, that’s just my 2 cents worth.

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